Having “that conversation” with my kids has always been on the end of my list. First, I am not ready for them to be old enough to have this talk, and second I just don’t know what to say sometimes. Feeling this way, I was happy to see Sex by Design from Abby Ludvigson and know that I would have help for this important topic.
Sex by Design is not a sex education course. What it is, is a curriculum for both boys and girls that teaches God’s design for sex and how to live that in their daily life. With this curriculum we had physical Parent and Teen Editions of Sex by Design. We also received access to the videos online that go along with the books.
There are 7 topics that are covered in Sex by Design:
- Plan Ahead: Living Pure in a Sex-Saturated Culture
- Counting the Cost: Every Decision Has a Price Tag
- Dating: Doing Relationships God’s Way
- Sex: God’s Purpose and Plan
- Modesty: God Cares What I Wear
- Pornography: Its Deception & Steps to Get Out or Stay Out
- Secondary Virginity: Running Back to God
Each of these topics have 3 different levels to learning them. The first level is all about discussing what we have just learned after watching the video. This section also includes a film outline for the kids to fill in as they watch the video.
We spent time working on this section right after the video. I loved the Discuss it section. This allowed us to open doors to conversation. We didn’t do all of them, rather we picked the ones that we needed in our home. Abby includes a lot of extra resources that you can download on her website. She put little notes on the side of the pages of what resources to use.
The second level, The Bible: Your Sword in the Battle, This section is a Bible Study to help bring what you learned from the video, notes and discussions into your heart. We start off with Abby says, this gives the main point of the topic. After this, she follows with The Bible says, here is where we see the Bible verses that also relate to the topic. This shows the kids that God does have a plan and purpose.
The final level is the level where your child is going to take what they learn and make it their own. This level is based on The 1st Peter Principle. Here is where your child will prepare, rehearse and share what they have learned.
We have not completed this curriculum yet. But that is ok because Abby wants us to take this at our own pace. There is no schedule on how long to take for any of this. You go at the pace that works for you and your child. I took the time to watch all the videos before even introducing them to Moe Man. This slowed our start down, but boy did I love those videos.
Each video is filmed in front of a group of real kids. Abby speaks to them and us as real people. She has a great voice and is very serious, but fun at the same time. We are drawn to her as she talks. She makes us want to listen to her.
We spent time with the first video and the notes to go with it. After that, we spent a few days with the discussion questions. It was nice to space this out over the week. This allowed for continued thinking on the topic. After we had finished the first level, we did the second level, the Bible Study. I have Moe Man take his time with this, coming and going, reading and re-reading it over the next week. Finally, we spent the final week working on the third level. I really wanted Moe Man to focus on this part. I wanted to cement into him what he had just learned and how to use this in his day to day life.
As well as using the parent and student books, we took advantage of the extra resources that Abby made available to us. This helped us to dig deeper and apply it to everyday situations.
We really love this curriculum, even the teenage boy. He doesn’t feel embarrassed talking about what he is learning and it makes sense to him. Things that he used to wonder about are being answered in a gentle way using the Bible to guide us. Knowing that Abby was a 33-year-old virgin waiting for her husband, made it easier to relate to her. She knew the struggles, she had walked the walk while talking the talk.
If you have teens in your house, you should be doing this curriculum with them. It doesn’t matter if you homeschool or not, if you want your child to grow up knowing and practicing purity, this the curriculum to use!